If you read last few posts, you’ll know that I’ve had a rough couple of months. Within myself, I’ve actually been doing really well. I’ve been going to therapy and I’m so happy in my new property. But it seems like just when the dust is settling, everything happens at once. My sister going into hospital. Losing a close family friend last week. Having a number of close friends seriously ill in hospital. With all that on my mind, I have been expecting to feel low. But instead of letting it set in, I have been proactive and managing my own happiness! Today I’ll share with you my happiness toolkit:
Set Aside Worry Time
I am a worrier by nature. I worry about my life, my mothers, my brothers, my sisters, my boyfriends – everyone that means something to me, I worry excessively about them and their decisions. Even people who I don’t particularly care about, I worry about them. I can’t help it! One of the best things I learned in therapy to help with this was ‘worry time’. How does it work? Well, every morning and night I sit down for 10 minutes and think about the things that are worrying me. I write it all down every possible little eventuality and I let my anxiety run wild. It is a bit odd at first and I struggled to really let loose, but after a week of doing it, I began to get into the rhythm and really enjoy it. Then for the rest of the day, whenever I start to worry I just get out a pen and write it down for later. Then I can have a worry free day but I don’t feel like I’m ignoring the things I “need” to worry about.
Have A Cuppa
I’m a tea addict. I have a monthly subscription box and I buy various speciality teas whenever I come upon them. I am slightly ashamed to say I actually have two entire cupboards in my house dedicated to tea alone. So it’s no surprise that when I’m feeling like I need a pick-me-up, tea is my go-to. My two comforting cuppas are Teapigs Chocolate & Mint Tea and Ahmad Rooibos & Cinnamon tea. The Teapigs literally tastes like chocolate mint ice cream. It feels like such a wonderfully luxurious treat but I can drink it all day long without any guilt! Cinnamon holds a special place in my heart (and my stomach). I can’t get enough of the stuff, so when I found this tea I knew that was the end of me. Its really difficult to find so when I stumble upon it I buy in bulk!
Set Happiness Alerts
This is my little secret that I’ve never actually told anyone! When things are getting a little tough, I set up calendar alerts with happy quotes and sayings inside them that resonate with me. So throughout a day or week, I receive little reminders at random times. Some of my past quotes have been things like “The secret of being happy is accepting where you are in life and making the most out of every day”, or “there is no path to happiness: happiness is the path”. It may seem cliché to some people but for me, these little reminders can really help. If I’m having a bad day or feeling low, receiving a little reminder can help bring me back to centre. Give it a try!
If there was a Bath Addicts Anonymous I would be the chairman. I have a bath almost every day when I’m feeling a bit wobbly. It makes me feel luxurious, it helps my pain, but most importantly it forces me to pick up a book and just relax. Like everyone else, my favourite bath time addition is a Lush bath bombs. Unfortunately, since my mobility has declined it hasn’t been so easy to pop out and buy them (and I’m not organised enough to buy them online). My favourite is Ylang Song Bombshell. But last Christmas I received some lovely Clarins Bubble bath with aromatherapy oils and I just can’t get enough of it! The smell is amazing and it makes just the right amount of bubbles because we all know that bubbles to bathwater ratio is tres important.
What do you have in your happiness toolkit? Does it look anything like mine? I’d love to hear about it – comment below and share!
Until next time.